Overcoming fear and self doubt is a major challenge for many people around the world. When facing an obstacle, some get scared, give up and never face that disappointment again.
Others take action, continue fighting and overcome the challenge. These people conquer their fear and self doubt. When you're scared of something specific or have a general feeling of lack of confidence, it's difficult to avoid self doubt.
However, you can take action to move forward and overcome your fear and doubt so they no longer have any power over you.
Here are five surprising yet effective ways to break through:
Realize That Fear is a Universal Experience
Fear is a very normal human emotion, but that doesn't mean it's a good one. Fear can be paralyzing and keep us from doing what we want to do. Fear often comes from the unknown.
What if I fail?
What if I'm not good enough?
What if they don't like me?
We can overcome these fears by realizing that they're universal experiences that everyone goes through at some point in their life. Fear often leads to self doubt, which can also be crippling. If you're worried about being judged or not living up to expectations, you'll always find a way to justify why you shouldn't pursue your dreams.
The only way to get past this kind of negative thinking is with positive affirmations and mindset training.
It's important to remember that fear changes over time as our lives change and evolve along with them. When we were children, facing our fears was essential for survival and learning how to cope with scary situations was essential for our well-being as adults.
As adults, however, facing our fears isn't always necessary for survival — it just helps us grow as people!
Reframe Your Self-Talk
Many of us have the same experience when it comes to fear and self-doubt. When we feel down on ourselves, we tend to get stuck in a negative feedback loop. We think of all the things that are wrong with us, and then we start telling ourselves how bad we are.
This is what psychologists call "negative self-talk," and it's a major contributor to low self-esteem and depression. If you want to break out of this cycle, you need to learn how to reframe your self-talk. You can do this by learning how to tell the difference between "realistic" and "unhelpful" thoughts. Realistic thoughts are those that are based on facts, while unhelpful thoughts are not. It's important to be able to identify which thoughts are realistic because they help you understand what is true about yourself and your life.
For example, if you're feeling like you're a failure because you didn't get that promotion at work, an unhelpful thought might be "I'm not good enough." A realistic thought would be: "My boss told me that he wanted someone with more experience in this role." A realistic thought is not a judgment, but rather an observation. It doesn't mean that your boss is right or wrong; it just means that you think he's mistaken in this case. You can use realistic thoughts when you're feeling upset by something someone else did or said. Instead of saying to yourself "She shouldn't have done that" (which isn't true), try to think: "That was hurtful." This is a more accurate description of what happened, and it helps you to feel less upset.
The second step is to develop a plan for dealing with your emotions. You don't want to just let your feelings run wild; instead, you should think about how you can use them positively. For example: "I'm really angry right now because my boss didn't give me the promotion I wanted. What can I do? Maybe I should talk with him about it." This way you are reframing the negative thought process into a more realistic thought process.
FEAR can have two meanings: Forget Everything And Run OR Face Everything And Rise(!!) The choice is yours.
Make a List of Your Accomplishments and Strengths
The third step is to make a list of your accomplishments and strengths. This can help you feel better about yourself, especially if you have been feeling down on yourself lately. This may seem like a simple task, but it can be very helpful.
For example, you might list all the things you have accomplished during your lifetime or since starting your job. This can include things like graduating from college, getting promoted to a higher position at work, or being able to pay off your student loans faster than expected. You can also think about the skills and talents you have that make you stand out from other people. You might list things like being a good listener or having an ability to solve problems quickly.
Once you have a list of your positive qualities, you can think about how they are useful in your everyday life. If you are a good listener, then think about how this helps others feel better by listening to their problems and concerns without judging them or offering advice (unless they ask for it). If you have an ability to solve problems quickly , then think about how this can help you in your current job or in future jobs. You might also be able to use some of these abilities when applying for a new job or doing volunteer work.
Once you are able to write down your strengths, then fear and self doubt will begin to fade away. You will see that you are much more than just your weaknesses, and that you have many positive qualities that make you unique.
Act As If You're Confident When You're Not Feeling It
Even if you don’t feel it, act confident. This can be as simple as walking with your head held high or standing up straight and smiling when you walk into a room full of strangers. It may sound silly, but the way that other people perceive us is often based on how we present ourselves. If you look confident, then people are more likely to respect what you have to say; if they like what they hear, then they will listen more closely to what comes next—even if it's just small talk at first.
Celebrate small Small victories
Small victories are an important part of your success. Celebrating your small wins helps to keep you motivated and on track towards your bigger goals. Think about some of your biggest accomplishments. Did you achieve them without experiencing any failures? Of course not. You likely faced many failures along the way before finally achieving success, but that doesn't mean those failures were bad things. In fact, they were essential to getting where you are today!
When we face setbacks, it can be hard to see the silver lining in them at first glance. But there is always something good that comes out of every experience — even if it's just a lesson learned. The key is to look for that silver lining and then celebrate it as soon as you find it!
Take Away
Never forget that you are your biggest rival. If you are determined to overcome and better yourself, no power can stop you. Just rely on your inner strength and never doubt what you can do. Also, whenever possible, lose the guilt that is so easy to feel when we fail to hit our standards or expectations. You are human, and even humans are not machines – as long as you learn from mistakes and keep trying, that's all that counts! Fear has only as much power as you allow it to have on you.
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